Wednesday, October 31, 2007
I think luckily the teen didn't hear it though, or else he was too embarrassed to acknowledge it.
Monday, October 29, 2007
someone has to do it!
Here's my thoughts on the subject, it may one day be interesting for the kids to read:
I'm going to ignore all the controversial stuff about this post and suggest that we as a culture
make life much much harder for parents, mothers in particular, than it should be. If we didn't
view parenthood as such an individual independent venture-having supporting adults, related or not, to give much needed breaks and support and advice-I think it would be a much easier endeavor.
I think being a parent today is so full of pressure. People have a sense that they have to try
so hard to ensure their children have all the advantages(flashcards, music dance sports lessons,
read a story EVERY SINGLE DAY or your kid will hate reading, etc.)It's a lot of pressure for them and us. We have a society that almost requires both parents to work-and even the grandparents are often still working and don't have the time other generations might have had to spend with their grand kids. Spending time with your kids isn't just about having quality time, you need just regular moments where you aren't actually doing anything together but are still around each other. I really think our rushed pace of life takes away a lot of the joys of raising kids. And maybe it's just me, but I think we are so judgemental towards other parents. I think this really takes away from the joy of parenting also. I read a quote somewhere where they said parenting isn't supposed to be about what the end product is-it's about the joys you get along the way. From the fun of raising your kids. I think society really takes away from the joys of having a family and raising kids.
That said, I acknowledge that it is a job that isn't for everyone, and it is important to realize that. The problem is that there's such a delicate balance-between telling the truth about how hard it can be and not turning people off from becoming a parent. That's why we don't always talk about the bad stuff. It's very hard to convey how high the highs of parenting are to someone who doesn't yet have kids. (That's not meant to sound snobby, it's just that some things have to be experienced.) For me anyway, those highs of parenting more than make up for the low periods.
He's trying to talk now, with all kinds of coos and shrieks, he's testing his voice out. He really likes when you have a "conversation" with him. At this point that basically consists of repeating the noises he makes. I don't know if I've just gotten better at reading baby body language or if Jacob is just better at communicating his needs, but I can often tell for example, when he wants someone to hold him, or if he just wants to look at them and say hi. (if you wants to go to someone, he starts wriggling his whole body, moving his arms and legs as though he were swimming. It's as though he's trying to move over into their arms) Right now, he's yelling at me in baby talk because he wants me to pick him up. So I'll have to end this for now, lol. I just wanted to record the thought that he is a huge positve, a joy, even when other things aren't going so well.
Saturday, October 27, 2007
It's a very short article, but for those of you who don't want to check the link, here's the most important part:
As the first study to examine what impacts breast shape in connectionto pregnancy, plastic surgeons found that a history of breastfeeding, the number of children breastfed, the duration of each child's breastfeeding, or the amount of weight gained during pregnancy were not significant predictors for losing breast shape. However, body mass index (BMI), the number of pregnancies, a larger pre-pregnancy bra size, smoking history,and age were significant risk factors for an increased degree of breast sagging.
Thursday, October 25, 2007
What are they selling? Plush breast toys. Beanie boobies. Gotta love those japaneese companies! Check out the link for a picture. I just find it very amusing.
"These adorable beanie boobies are being sold at retailers for about 1000 yen ($9 bucks) each. There's also an itty bitty ti... umm, a smaller version just 2.5 inches wide that includes a ball-chain to hang your keys on. They only cost 480 yen ($4.30) each. (via Pink Tentacle) .........The plushies are about 8 inches wide and each one of the five has its own personality. I personally like the "gyaru" breastie that displays the unusual Ganguro style popularized by certain Japanese girls: a deep tan with white lipstick and white eyeshadow - it looks even stranger than it sounds. The pierced nipple is a nice added touch, wouldn't you agree?"
Claire, would you like a Beanie boobie to display in your new apartment, whenever it may appear? Also, you might like this.
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
It looks like it will be raining on Friday, hopefully not too bad. : (
I'm kind of winging her costume this year-I went to Joanns only once and the patterns on sale that day were all kind of difficult looking. Since my time is so greatly limmited I just didn't want to take a chance. So I'm modifying the cinderella pattern I used last year into a fairy, or fairy princess, this year. Same basic dress, just with some features added and some gone. Wish me luck, I only have tonight and tomorrow during the day to finish the costume. Hopefully it comes out looking ok!
Tuesday, October 23, 2007
Bad Things Happen to Tightly-Cinched Fat
Woman in dressing room: Dear God!
Employee: Ma'am, is everything okay?
Woman, bursting from room and throwing corset at employee: Just-- Just take this far away from me!
--Victoria's Secret, Herald Square
Leanna had her first Girl Scout field trip this past weekend. Her Brownie Troop is very tiny-3 girls. She was the only one who showed up on Saturday morning! So she got to visit Mountain House with her troop leader("Mommy! She's not a troop leader! She's Miss Jenn! That's her REAL name!") She had fun doing crafts there, not as much as she would have with the other girls from her troop I'm sure, but she seemed to enjoy it. And her leader stopped at Dunkin Donuts and got her an ice-cream after. She definitely enjoyed that! She's looking forward to a Halloween party/Juliette Low party this week.
We went to the library as a family this weekend, but I had to leave early with the kids. Justin and Timothy are just not able to stay quiet yet(or even still enough) and Leanna still has trouble keeping her voice quiet for too long. Tom was looking for a newspaper article on the parking authority and double parking. We're in the process of fighting a ticket. But that's a whole other post.
Leanna's doing well in school academically. But she continues to have problems with sloppiness-of handwritting and in taking care of property. She keeps losing crayons and erasers. The teacher stopped me yesterday afterschool to mention it to me.
Leanna also had her first phone call from a friend yesterday. She left two really cute messages on our answering machine. A 15 minute phone conversation basically consisted of her friend trying to give Leanna her phone number (although I explained to Leanna that I already had the number through our caller id). It was just adorable to listen to them. "Six, ten? That's your whole phone number?" LOL.
I'm getting really tired of the ancient crossing guard asking personal questions every single time I see her. I purposely go through the alley to avoid her when I remember to. She keeps asking me if I want more and what my husband does for a living that we have so many. Some days she says, in an accusing tone, you're not planning on having any more are you!? (She forgets and asks me the same questions over and over) Maybe I should have fun with her and tell her I don't have a husband and that they all have different fathers or something. Then again she might remember it and that would just start a whole new line of questioning!
Thursday, October 18, 2007
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
According to this article it's all not true. They compare prices in the 70s with prices today. Bascially they say we're spending more on basic things like housing and health care. The basics take up close to 3/4 of every family's income. Even though we eat out a lot more often, overall food costs are way down. Cost of clothing and appliances are also down. For example, they mention that a refrigerator which in the 70s would have cost 2 week's income to buy now costs less than two days' income (Not for us though!) .
Interestly enough, they also say that the majority of American consumers carry no credit card debt from month to month. I had always heard that most Americans carry about $8, 000 in credit card debt.
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
(The pantry has a lock that the boys haven't figured out yet but Justin will still stand on a chair and try to open it!)
Monday, October 15, 2007
At first I was really turned off because she talks about cocaine and how a friend can't do it with her because she has a playdate with a difficult child the next day (I'm thinking I would be horrified if someone was "hungover" from cocaine and responsible for watching my child). And from the Friday night happy hours to wine at every gathering to her always making martinis the book is permeated with alcohol. But I figured, ok, this is probably a valid experience for plenty of mothers, so I'll just ignore that part of it and continue reading. And I'm glad I did.
The book overall is about her search for a way to retain her prebaby self and also to cope in a world where most mothers seem perfectly fulfilled by immersion in their child-centric lives. While I occasionally found it off-putting, her musings on what life would be like-minus the husband and kids-is honest and something every mother's probably wondered about from time to time. I read reviews on amazon.com and one woman complains that in the book motherhood is all about YOU-the mother. Well, I think that's the point. Nevermind that the book is written from her point of view, so logically it would be largly about HER (duh!) Motherhood is not entirely about the kids. You do have to find a way to be a good mother and still retain parts of your old self. Which isn't as easy as it sounds.
Also, LA seems a very strange place to raise a child, it was interesting to read about. And she is quite funny, I enjoyed her reflections. There were several passages in the book that inspired thought, so for that alone I would recommend the book. It was a good read overall. I post this here not as a book review, but as a reminder, to myself and anyone else, that it is ok, necesary even, to cultivate that part of your life that doesn't revolve around care-taking(the kids or the man). (Now if only I could find a way to do that!)
We got hungry later and Tom wouldn't make hotdogs (headache) so Claire played grillmaster. Maree announced that her mother is getting her horse riding lessons when she gets boots. However, due to her mouth being full of hotdog, it sounded more like she was getting riding lessons when she gets boobs. Quite a different story.
I said, somebody needs to get this movie for them for Christmas! And Aunt Laura replied, yeah, a present for the whole family!! It was a nice way to wind down from the excitement of the party. (Thanks Aunt Laura!)
But there are also fears that insurance companies could cash in on the advance hiking premiums for those at risk, or even refusing to insure them altogether.
That should be illegal. That really shows you that profit is the most important thing to health insurance companies. It should be about taking care of people.
Thursday, October 11, 2007
which looks really interesting to me. I added it to my wish list. Then I started thinking about how what I really need most though is the TIME TO READ that book and others I already have. And how realistically speaking-will I be able to put her tips to good use? Well, not now.....maybe in the future when the kids aren't quite so dependant or at least are in school. What I'm really asking for is the fantasy. Yes, you too could have such a beautifully organized, sparklingly clean, expensively decorated house! Just by reading this book, character traits long ago ingrained in your personality will suddenly morph into much desired ones!
I know it's just a fantasy, but I do enjoy it while it lasts.