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Sunday, August 02, 2009

I wish people understood this

Sometimes it has nothing to do with not wanting or needing help.
Part of a comment someone left on a post about asking for help and giving help that resonates, for me anyway:

One of the things that’s hard to understand, if you’re not feeling that trapped in your life, is the guilt that can come with allowing people to help you. Each person who helps you can become one more person you “owe,” or one more person to please, which can add to the pressure even more than it relieves it. That’s neither here nor there, but it was an enlightening perspective–one that reminds us how important blind compassion is, because we can never fully understand what someone is struggling with.
Kristin T. (@kt_writes)-->:

4 comments:

Jamie said...

whats worse is certain people who give you things you don't ask for but then want you to worship the ground they walk on and be forever indebted to them.

(hehe. guess it hit a nerve!)

Jamie said...

p.s. nobody who reads this blog needs to feel like that has anything to do with them!

sajmom said...

I guess I'll have to stop lavishing you with gifts now!

Jamie said...

lol =)