'This isn't the first time I have seen the severe looks people give when they see a big family. I was talking to my husband after last week and how I think some people automatically think that large families have naturally more wild children than the "average" person and that they will cause more trouble. I would have to disagree with this train of thought. Sure the noise level is going to go up a few decibels but I don't think that a boy that comes from a family of five or six is more apt to get into mischief than a boy who is an only child. It just "appears" that way because there are more of them running around.
I also think that in general, our world is becoming more and more impatient with children. You don't want them looking through your stuff at a garage sale? A.) Ask them politely if they wouldn't mind finding something else to do, B.) Find the heart to bear with their curious nature, or C.) Don't have a garage sale.
Don't get me wrong there is a need for boundaries to be set and rules to be obeyed but you wouldn't expect an only child to sit in the house all day twiddling his thumbs and not saying a peep. Kids need to be allowed to run around and perhaps a little whooping and hollering while they're at it. They need to be allowed to explore and get their energy out. Maybe even to learning to deal with the barking of afamily pet is something we can all work on. After all sometimes a dog is the perfect friend for a child. If a child happens to get into something they are not suppose to or try something you don't approve of, be a little forgiving, they're not perfect yet. Having said this, there are times for punishment but not with a condemning lecture telling them what bad children they are. Having a big family isn't always easy, if you notice a child doing something they probably shouldn't, politely inform the parents of your concerns but don't condemn the parents they are trying their best. Raising a large family isn't an easy task.'
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