I just saw this, and not surprisingly, could relate. 6 Tips for Being a Welcomed New Baby Visitor
It's mostly moot for me, I don't know people who make food and come over with offers to help,(except my Mom! she does help-this is not posted as criticism of anyone. Just something I can relate to right now) but in theory these people exist, and this list is a good reminder. I think I would add to the list that the new Mom has been waiting a very long time to meet and hold this baby, and so has the new Dad, so squabbles over who else gets to hold the baby and in what order, only add to her troubles during a very emotional and exhausting period. Sometimes when you hand the baby to someone, it does not reflect your belief that that person is #1 on the list to hold the baby, it merely reflects the fact that they were standing next to you starting you down with an intensity that could melt plastic! (Ok, so this part is actually something I've experienced).
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Yes, your children want to be the first to hold her, which is understandable because all they heard for nine months, was mommy is going to have a baby. So, that is why they are excited to hold her. To me it was just another baby, no biggie, but a cutie and new.
Sadly, it wasn't the children squabling over the baby, but grown adult relatives!!
I'm just glad it wasn't me. Babies are so cute that is why adults fight over which one is first to hold them. Must have been mom and Laura doing this. I wish I was there to see this drama, LOL.
Sue, I don't know how you could see the new baby as "just another baby". Each new baby is a new life, unique and special. Each child in the family is different and it's neat to watch them and see how each one has different characteristics.
As for the squabbling Steph, that comes because those who squabbled have also put time in supporting you, taking you out so you don't go crazy, watching the others so you could get to the hospital on time and not have the baby at home or on the way.
Just want to emphasize that this was NOT posted to be critical!!!! It's for the sake of information. It's something I can relate to both because I've just had a baby, and because I've experienced this five times now! I think in the excitement over the baby people sometimes forget to consider factors mentioned in the article. I absolutely do appreciate all the help from the people who were fighting to hold Lorelei and the people who wern't(like Dad). I am aware of every little and big way that our families have helped us out, and cannot express enough how grateful I, and we, are for that help!
I think Sue likes toddlers better than babies? I know some people think of babies as just "blobs" -Angelina Jolie made that comment once and was widely criticized. I myself don't get it-my kids have shown personality right from the start!! But I do get that people are different and have different preferences.
In my opinion, most babies when they are born aren't cute. I can remember my Billy, when they first handed him to me my first reaction was, ooh he is ugly, but I didn't mean it figuratively. Billy had this squished head all deformed from trying to come out, plus he was red and wrinkly, and my thought at the age of 16 was is this how all babies look when they are born. The nurse explained to me that all babies turn prettier when they get in to shape, which is exactly what happened. Now, when I first held Tommy I thought he was so cute, but then again, he didn't go through what I went through when I had Billy. So, then, you can say each baby looks different at birth, until their body gets in to shape after delivery.
Yes, at the moment, Alanna, I feel it is just another baby and another mouth to feed, but it doesn't mean I don't think she isn't special. I feel and it's only my opinion, that Lorelei is a blessing, but it doesn't mean that hardship won't come into play.
As a matter of fact, it would have been more appropriate if Steph would have posted these tips for being a welcomed new baby visitor before the baby was born.
I would be there as much as you, but Stephanie chose to close that door, with her not really liking me. So, I will not come over uninvited. When I am invited I will help when being asked. I don't mean to offend anyone, but it's what it is now.
Why would you think I like toddlers more than babies? Babies are a lot of work, but it doesn't mean I like toddlers more, because they are just as much work, but different. All children are cute in their own way.
I would have posted the article earlier if I'd found it earlier. Generally C-Section babies are considered "prettier" because they aren't as wrinkled and mishapen from the birth canal and the act of being born. I think all babies are absolutely adorable, but as I've explained, I have baby-love-its. (not a real term, LOL)
I was just speculating that maybe you prefer the toddler stage to the baby stage. Naturally there's work involved at every stage, no one would dispute that!! I didn't mean anything by saying that. I agree, all children are cute in their own way.
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